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Dating Tools To Help You Find a Needle in a Haystack

June 23rd, 2018
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Psychology Today published an article about why dating advice is keeping us single.  In the introductory paragraph the article author Ken Page, a clinical social worker, says, “Most popular dating recommendations build on a fatally flawed concept: If you want to find your soul mate, make yourself more desirable. As useful as this might sound, it’s the kiss of death for true intimacy, because it leads us away from the most essential ingredient of all—authenticity.” In the end, this advice promises to bring you love, yet delivers insecurity and disappointment. If we try to be someone... Read More

Signs It’s Time To Go On A Dating Diet

May 21st, 2018

After looking for the person of your dreams for what seems like an eternity, dating starts to wear thin. If dates cease to be fun, and meeting new people has turned into a grueling slog up the path of small talk and apathetic text exchanges, you are experiencing dating exhaustion. It is normal to be discouraged, but your dating energy should be mostly optimistic, and you should be somewhat excited about the prospect of new people.  If that’s not you, it might be time to take a dating break.  Here are some other signs of dating exhaustion. It feels like work.  As a person who does not enjoy... Read More

The First Commandment of Dating:  Do Unto Others…

April 20th, 2018

I read an article this week about a woman who ghosted a man after their first date. His response was to send her a bill for her half of the meal he paid for on their date. No matter what your opinion of either party’s actions, let me say that you should always treat other people as you would like to be treated. Responding to bad behavior with more bad behavior is immature, tacky and, unfortunately, the inappropriate privilege we’ve given ourselves in the age of social media. Don’t misunderstand! I’m not saying you have to respond to all who message you on a dating site.  ’m not saying... Read More

How To Break Up With a Jerk

March 31st, 2018

Breaking up is hard to do. So, why am I writing about breaking up with a jerk?  Because that is even harder to do.  Let me explain.  Breaking up with a nice person is hard, but you can count on them handling it properly – no bad behavior, inappropriate comments or angry outbursts.  A jerk, on the other hand, is selfish and mean and doesn’t want to let you go.  I’ve seen some advice, both good and bad, about breaking up with a jerk, and I hope to provide a map of the high road for ending things with your jerk. Social media break up is a no- no.  Don’t tell your jerk that you don’t... Read More

Write Well! –Tips For Writing Your Dating Profile

February 24th, 2018

If I had a dollar for every time I read a dating profile that said “I don’t know what to say here” or “I don’t like to talk about myself,” I’d be a wealthy woman.  It is not difficult to say a few things about who you are and what you are looking for, but it does require a little thought.  Men who say they are just looking around or don’t know quite what they want get no attention from me.  So, what are the bones of a good dating profile?   Give a snapshot of who you are, how you live your life and the relationship you are seeking.  Here’s a formula for writing your profile. ... Read More

Meet Someone IRL

January 23rd, 2018

The statistics speak for themselves – scientists at the Pew Research Center say 88% of singles meet their mate in real life, not online.  In fact, only 5% of couples say they met online.  This means if you are only looking for love online, your chances of meeting someone special are pretty low. We don’t live in a society that supports meeting our mates the way our parents did.  Many Americans don’t go to church or have other traditional social networks.  Working adults don’t have access to as many singles as college aged kids.  Add to that our obsession with our phones and we simply... Read More

Tips for being a good dater

December 14th, 2017

Most singles would probably consider themselves knowledgeable about dating, simply by virtue of exposure. By the time we are all adults, most singles have done quite a bit of dating. Our perceived experience as daters may or may not be real, because many of us are still using a traditional dating paradigm in the era of digital dating. Traditional dating rules don’t always work online. If you don’t know that dating online is different than it used to be, let me offer some tips for being a good online dater. Write something! Please write something on your profile AND in your emails. If I get... Read More

Choose the Right Dating Site for You

November 17th, 2017

Competition is a good thing!  There are so many dating sites out there right now that you can, at the very least, find like-minded souls (think JDate or MeetMindful), or in the best of all possible worlds, find a very high level of selection (think OnlyFarmers).  Dating sites and apps are not one-size-fits-all.  Each site has pros and cons and it’s up to you to find that one that suits you. Here are some examples of where to find exactly what you’re looking for. Looking for something casual? The most well-known app for a casual situation is, of course, Tinder.   I would also recommend... Read More

Introducing Dating OnDenver!

October 18th, 2017

In 1995, Match.com debuted as an online dating site for singles.  At that time, there was a stigma attached to meeting matches online vs. “the old fashioned way.”  Three years ago, when Tinder burst onto the scene, dating online had already become a widely accepted way of meeting your mate.  Just because online dating is available and acceptable, doesn’t mean dating is easier.  In fact, almost anyone who has done any online dating will tell you that it makes dating hard.  Many spend time endlessly emailing, texting, or messaging without ever meeting in person.  Remember the couple... Read More