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A Game of Numbers

January 3rd, 2019
crowd of blurred men

So, I’ve been dating. It’s a rather obvious statement, but I’m saying it here with a real air of assertiveness that lets you know that I’m “for real,” because dating is what I should be doing if I am blatantly putting out into the universe that I’d like a partner in crime. And, as painful as dating can be (and, take my word for it, it can be unbelievably painful), the only way to get better at anything is by doing it. Over and over and over again. So, I’ve spent the last few months committed to putting myself out there more as a means of sharpening the side of me that would rather... Read More

‘I Don’t Know’ Is A Dating Fail

December 21st, 2018

When you meet someone, online or in person, you might think the worst possible thing that they can say to you is no. The absolute worst thing I’ve ever heard/read in a dating situation is “I don’t know.” For me, indecision is the worst situation because if you can’t decide if something in your life is worth it, it probably isn’t.  So, when I read a profile, on Bumble for example, and the guy answers the question, “What are you looking for?” with “I Don’t Know,” I swipe left!  That may seem like a shallow reason to do so, but let me tell you why. Being indecisive is a choice. ... Read More

How Many Reasons Do You Need Not To Share Nude Pics?

November 21st, 2018
woman posing nude with a wooden background

This month’s blog was going to be about something else entirely, but then I read a piece about a woman who won a law suit against her ex. The ex broke up with her and then shared her nude pics and videos with her friends, classmates, and pornographic websites.  This story persuaded me to write about the hazards of sharing suggestive media with anyone, even your significant other. A federal district court in California last week entered a default judgment against a man and ordered him to pay $6.45 million in damages after he was accused of spreading an ex-girlfriend’s naked pictures and videos... Read More

How I Know

November 15th, 2018
snowboarding in idaho

The smell of his leather seats lingers in my nostrils, a scent more intoxicating than the taste of the second round of Tito’s and soda that he’d slid to me across the marble countertop just an hour before. My hands are jammed underneath my thighs while my wavy hair slides haphazardly across my cheeks. His face is glowing in the redness of the stoplight; words are patiently waiting to escape his lips. And, I want to freeze here, in the magic and the madness, before those syllables roll off of his tongue. My sister loves you. My roommate loves you. And, they don’t understand why I can’t tell... Read More

3 Signs You’re Dating A Cuffer

October 23rd, 2018
Detecting Cuffers

Cuffing season is upon us, officially starting on November 1, running until Valentine’s Day. The Urban Dictionary defines cuffing season as follows: “During the fall and winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves desiring to be ‘cuffed’ or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.” A simpler definition is singles who venture out looking for someone with whom to spend the winter and dump them before spring arrives. Recently get into a relationship?... Read More

Dating Ideas That Aren’t the Same Ol’ Same Ol’

August 30th, 2018
dating ideas

You connect with someone; the chat is great, and you exchange phone numbers. After a text exchange or a phone call, you finally set a first date. A first date can be exciting, so why spoil it by doing the standard dinner and a movie? If you’ve been dating for any length of time, it may seem like you could go a lifetime without going on another coffee date or happy hour.  If you want to do something fun and different, there are some cool things to do that don’t cost a fortune and guarantee a good time! A twist on happy hour. Doing something fun and active is a great way to learn about your... Read More

Know Thyself When Seeking A Mate

July 25th, 2018
Dating_Focus on your values

I recently went on a date with a nice guy with whom I had quite a few shared interests.  During the course of the conversation, he mentioned that he didn’t have health care. I was a little surprised because in your 50s you start to have need for health care more than you did in your 30s and even 40s. When we parted company I noticed that he drove a very nice car and it made me think, why is health care such a low priority for him?  I never really thought that through however, because I started thinking downstream about a relationship with someone with no health care.  I considered what would... Read More

Dating Tools To Help You Find a Needle in a Haystack

June 23rd, 2018
Dating Denver

Psychology Today published an article about why dating advice is keeping us single.  In the introductory paragraph the article author Ken Page, a clinical social worker, says, “Most popular dating recommendations build on a fatally flawed concept: If you want to find your soul mate, make yourself more desirable. As useful as this might sound, it’s the kiss of death for true intimacy, because it leads us away from the most essential ingredient of all—authenticity.” In the end, this advice promises to bring you love, yet delivers insecurity and disappointment. If we try to be someone... Read More

Signs It’s Time To Go On A Dating Diet

May 21st, 2018

After looking for the person of your dreams for what seems like an eternity, dating starts to wear thin. If dates cease to be fun, and meeting new people has turned into a grueling slog up the path of small talk and apathetic text exchanges, you are experiencing dating exhaustion. It is normal to be discouraged, but your dating energy should be mostly optimistic, and you should be somewhat excited about the prospect of new people.  If that’s not you, it might be time to take a dating break.  Here are some other signs of dating exhaustion. It feels like work.  As a person who does not enjoy... Read More

The First Commandment of Dating:  Do Unto Others…

April 20th, 2018

I read an article this week about a woman who ghosted a man after their first date. His response was to send her a bill for her half of the meal he paid for on their date. No matter what your opinion of either party’s actions, let me say that you should always treat other people as you would like to be treated. Responding to bad behavior with more bad behavior is immature, tacky and, unfortunately, the inappropriate privilege we’ve given ourselves in the age of social media. Don’t misunderstand! I’m not saying you have to respond to all who message you on a dating site.  ’m not saying... Read More