I recently went on a date with a nice guy with whom I had quite a few shared interests.  During the course of the conversation, he mentioned that he didn’t have health care. I was a little surprised because in your 50s you start to have need for health care more than you did in your 30s and even 40s. When we parted company I noticed that he drove a very nice car and it made me think, why is health care such a low priority for him?  I never really thought that through however, because I started thinking downstream about a relationship with someone with no health care.  I considered what would... Read More

Psychology Today published an article about why dating advice is keeping us single.  In the introductory paragraph the article author Ken Page, a clinical social worker, says, “Most popular dating recommendations build on a fatally flawed concept: If you want to find your soul mate, make yourself more desirable. As useful as this might sound, it’s the kiss of death for true intimacy, because it leads us away from the most essential ingredient of all—authenticity.” In the end, this advice promises to bring you love, yet delivers insecurity and disappointment. If we try to be someone... Read More